The family is the most fundamental social unit that a human being is a part of after birth. The family culture has a deep influence on the family member's behavior and values throughout their lives. When family members have a healthy family culture, they can grow together as individuals with good attitudes towards life.
What is the family by definition?
Family is the first school where children are taught to be mindful about what they think and do. They are being exposed to all kinds of emotions up until their adulthood which means, parents need to be highly sensitive to other person's feelings to develop a culture where these fundamental values are passed onto new generations.
Factors that contribute to having a healthy family dynamic:
- showing support for family members
- keeping personal problems out of family time
- keeping conflicts positive
- taking turns to talk about issues
- practicing forgiveness when needed
- avoiding bad words phrases like 'stupid' or 'shut up'
- finding family time every day and not just on vacation
- taking family members on trips they like and having family traditions daily life
After creating a healthy family culture in your house, the next step is to bring it into society.
Here are some ways you can help that happen:
- help family members learn how to give back to their community through volunteer work
- encourage family members to get involved with clubs such as youth groups, sports teams, or hobby clubs.
If there already exists a healthy family culture when family members grow up, the entire family dynamic will be positive for everyone involved when they become adults, even if parents divorce or any other major change occurs. If family members receive this positive family dynamic, they are more likely to pass that on by creating their own family culture.
Take Responsibility for your actions!
Each person is responsible for itself and the people they are surrounded with, every action we take will affect our friends and beloved ones in ways we couldn't even notice or imagine. There is a fine line between chaos and order in life, our duty is to walk the middle road between those two factors. We need to be always with a foot planted into order, to offer stability and certainty, but with our other foot to be in chaos which means, uncertainty, unknown that leads to progress and self-development.
It is the balance of these two factors that are often referred to as Yin and Yang as well, that make life worth living for. These fundamental values should and need to be taught and passed further to all that is surrounding us to create a healthy family culture and a fruitful life worth living.
Don't beat yourself up!
However, there are days when the balance between yin and yang gets broken. The problem is not with the people but it is our interpretation of certain events that lead to mental health issues. We are strict on what we consider proper behavior and how we should live our lives, we expect things from other people without considering their point of view, generally speaking, we forget about human values and morality in this "modern" world.
People become more self-centered and they tend to only think about their well-being and forget entirely about others around them which results in a massive wave of depression, anxiety disorders, social phobias, schizophrenia, etc.
Our thoughts along with our actions both play a huge role in keeping us unstable mentally or even physically.
Whenever we have a bad day, or we are just not motivated enough to do anything well, we need to simply stop, take a break and change our mindset for a second.
Often we ruin our day by comparing our lives or other situations with highly successful people that are way beyond our capacity in some domains. We often give up on our dreams because we are simply not as skilled as the best painters like Picasso or the most valued singers like Madonna.
These "slip-ups" are very dangerous because they can spiral into deep dark dungeons from where there is little or no return, and they are not only influencing you but the people surrounding you as well.
Take on life in small steps!
Luckily there is a simple medicine to this, well simple at least in theory. You need to talk to yourself and convince yourself that what are you doing is wrong. You don't need to beat yourself up because you are not a natural-born talent, no one is. Behind every success story lies endless nights and days of pain and suffering, practicing, grinding, no one is good at something from day one.
You need to lower your standards, stop making unrealistic comparisons and start doing incremented steps towards your goals. Compare yourself today to the person you were yesterday, and see if you can improve on that a bit, so your future self from tomorrow can look back positively and gain confidence knowing he is making the right choices and gaining a lead.
cherish every moment!
Each day is a gift, regardless of the way it was spent, regardless of how many mistakes we made or how broken our heart is. Each day is an opportunity to start anew with regards to mental health which means, healthy thoughts must be developed all along with healthy actions.
The great news here is that not only unhealthy thoughts can be reversed into their positive counterparts but also destructive actions can be handled to reprogram them into constructive ones. For example, if somebody has developed the habit of shouting at others for simple mistakes then they need to break this pattern by learning how to control their anger and avoid yelling accordingly. By implementing this new tactic on daily basis one can eventually master it and calm down almost instantly.
It is these choices and mentality that form a human being into someone who is a valuable and productive link in the chain of society. These values need to be taught to our family and children, so they as well down the road of their lives can obtain and build a healthy family culture themselves and thrive in society.